How things can change in such a short period of time. A newborn turns into a baby, skinny legs turn into chunky kicking legs, cries turn into cooing and a beautiful face turns into a beautiful happy smile.
It’s not without the ups and downs that comes in the form of sleepless nights, tired days, a messy home and the joys of a lot of firsts!
My first time around, by two months, my little one was very under-weight, we had been sticking to just breastfeeding and he just wasn’t putting on any weight. Looking back at photos and being able to compare him to our second bundle of joy, I can see it now, but at the time it was all so new, and I was unclear on the expectations.
This second time around, we were aware of the issue and by two months he was on a mix of bottle and breastfeeding. This combination worked well for us, also made it easier when going out, as feeding with a bottle of formula is much quicker and it’s more socially acceptable to do anywhere, no need to look for a more secluded area where you might be more comfortable.
It took us a while to find the right formula that suited our little one, as he was sick a few times with different formulas and also became constipated. We spoke to our pediatrician and were given a few samples of different formulas to try, until we had one that suited him and helped him stay regular. Anyone that says breastfeeding is best, this might be the case, but you also have to do what’s right for you and your baby, I never felt judged for using formula, as it was right for us.
As I mentioned in my Month One post, my first little one slept through the night from the beginning, but the colic my second little one suffered, hung around until around 7 weeks. This is very normal, as it can take a while for the digestion system to adjust, however, it was 7 weeks of many sleepless nights, lots of crying and aching arms from holding him to try to sooth him back to sleep. It does come to an end, and it was a relief when the colic became less, I’m not saying all the gas went, but he was able to start sleeping more continuous hours overnight.
By the time he was three months old we had gotten into a great routine, the little one was having his final bottle around 9pm, a few hugs and walks around the house, and he’d be asleep, as long as he was put down gently in his cot then he slept through until about 5 am.
I never thought I would be a 5 am morning person, but it’s amazing what you can get done at that time in the morning. As my focus has been to get back into shape, I was motivated to workout around the time my little one was 3 months old. I had recovered from the birth and looking forward to getting back into daily exercise and moving my body.
Making the most of the 5 am starts, once breastfeeding was done, I would then take some time for me and do a workout, or go for a jog on the treadmill. I was pumped and really enjoyed this new-found me time. With the workouts and watching what I ate, I was able to reduce my weight at a healthy pace.
However, routines with babies change constantly and my 5 am starts didn’t last more than a month. I do like a good routine to know how I can fit everything in my day, this also gives me clarity. But the journey with a newborn, and in my case, with a toddler as well, I have accepted that I need to be flexible and my priority are the boys and their needs first, there will be time for everything in the future.
During these second and third months, the smiles came, the giggles started, and he started to have different reactions around different people. Our little one would watch his older brother so intensely and even found comfort from him and stopped crying when his brother played with him, it’s so lovely to see them with a real connection from such a young age.
Outings and walks were a problem, due to the colic and being held so much, I was very wary taking him out in the pram, as he just didn’t like it and preferred to be carried. To resolve this we bought a baby carrier rucksack to strap on, this helped when going out and made shopping trips and general walks a lot more pleasant and quieter.
The first months have flown by and my little newborn has lost that little delicate newborn look, growing into a happy, smiley baby. I have really tried to be present during this time and take in every moment, but it still seems to have gone by in a blink of an eye.